What Grinds Our Gears

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You are listening to the balancing act podcast here's your hosts jamie wanko and joe vitale.

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Hey guess what we're officially recording we are officially

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recording get out of here yeah i know

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shut the front shut the front door tfu no

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that's something else oh it is it

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is hey welcome back to the balancing act

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pod oh you were about to say it hey welcome back

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uh we are joe vitale and jamie wonko

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we are your illustrious hosts of the

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balancing act podcast on human content so thanks a lot for joining us once again

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at another episode um fancy schmancy background we went with the background

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if you're watching us on the youtubes It's very like saved by the belly So good

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I think that's what I love about it Children of the 90s,

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Now did that start That started in the 80s no?

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Yeah that's right No I did it started in the 80s That also started my love For

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Kelly Kapowski Tiffany Ember Theason,

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She's the best She still has a pretty good social media presence She does she

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cooks she's a cooker She does like cooking shows Random cookery,

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but she just always, you know, nothing will be when she wore her tight bicycle

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shorts and just did like all the moves, you know.

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All the moves. All the moves as the head cheerleader, the only cheerleader. Wait, what was the song?

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What was the song? The workout song?

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Get down and break a sweat, rock and roll. You ain't seen nothing yet.

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The best part of that was at the end. part of it is when the best part of it

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is what she breaks into that out of nowhere in the middle of like our lunchtime.

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Cause you do that. You do that for once in a while. You're like,

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get down and break it. And I think I could do all the moves and I could.

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And also at the end when they went like, get down and go for it.

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Oh girl. I'm telling you. Um, I watched one of those like, uh,

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you know, behind the dark side of the nineties things.

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I think, I think it was a, there was a Kelly Kapowski thing on there.

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It was very, it was very disturbing.

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Yeah, I know. Well, I mean, you know, like the seedy side of,

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of Bayside or whatever. Yeah.

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Screech was there for years. No one liked him.

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Mr. Belding is balding. Yes. Uh, RIP Screech. RIP Dustin Diamond.

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Um, yeah, I know. Sad.

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You know, So this week has been a journey for me.

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You know, we talk up here on the Balancing Act about taking care of yourself

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and making yourself a priority. And...

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I don't know. You know, they say, like, take care of your body or it will tell you. Yeah.

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You've been running some, I mean, granted, sickness and illness has been running

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everywhere because it's rampant this time of year.

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Yes. My doctor told me this is the worst flu season in at least seven years. Yeah.

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You know, lots of flu A, but, you know, I just been having like a little bit

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of a go at, you know, and it's like, what did you do to yourself?

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And I don't even know. I just don't know.

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So yeah, I've been experiencing back pain, um, more than I have in, in at least 10 years.

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Um, Oh yeah. That's right. You were mentioning that. That was part of the reason

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you were, I know you were absent part of the week last week.

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It wasn't even a little, I mean, it was just like 10 out of 10.

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I wanted to, I really almost drove myself to the hospital.

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Oh, um, It was just so out of control.

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Like I had to like cry like real tears. Like I just could not. So I went to the doctor.

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Jason had said like, I think this is what it is.

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You know, I really like, I think that you should just, you know,

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go see the doctor tomorrow and don't go to the hospital and just,

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you know, and he was right.

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So let's document it. Yep.

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This is the first time for everything.

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I mean, you know, everybody gets a chance to shine. He was right.

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I just, you know, I've had back problems in the past, like after I had the girls.

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And so I've had issues with my lower back before where it had affected my leg

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or like I actually couldn't, like I could not lift my leg. And so I had like

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all sorts of stuff done for that.

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But I've really kept it like well under control. This was a completely,

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this was my upper mid back in between my shoulder, but it had like a name and, uh, Lambia, Nambia.

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Now I can't think of what lumbar, lumbar, lumbar. Maybe.

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Um, but the doctor knew like, and she just like put her hand on my back and

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she could feel it spasming.

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She was like, I can't like, there was no movement and it was completely locked.

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Yeah. Uh, yeah. So, oh, you know, I got some medicine, I got some physical therapy and, um,

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I'm getting there. You know, I'm trying to watch my posture also.

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And I went back to my box. Oh, yeah. I saw the box the other day.

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The box is in full effect.

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I also saw something as we get older.

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And as we know, I am apparently much older than you, depending on who you ask.

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You know, me and Henry Ford, we hang out together. Long story.

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So I saw a meme the other day that was like um

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in my 20s uh oh I slept on a coffee

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table and woke up and ran a 5k today uh in

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my in my 30s which also applies to your 40s um

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I bought the wrong pillow and now I'm in hospice um it's so true yeah because

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your body just like my joke is always like yep you turn 40 and that check engine

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light comes on a lot more you do things like you know pick up a three pound

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pack of garbage and throw your back out um yeah it was like what do you think that you did?

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Um, so I had had a sinus infection and all the things that came along with it

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and like the coughing and the coughing and the coughing and the coughing.

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And it could also have something to do with it. I think I actually coughed myself

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into throwing my back out.

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Um, you know, according to my spouse, um, he said, I have never heard now we're

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married almost 20 years.

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He's like, I've never heard you like that. And like, I woke him up and the whole

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thing, but I didn't wake myself up.

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And, but when I did, it was like, Oh, something is, something is really wrong.

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I actually thought like I popped one of my lungs.

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Cause like, you know, when you're like, and then you try to like fill your lungs

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with air and it was like, I can't, I can't, I can't even fill my lungs with air.

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So, you know, it's just another day in paradise. Nice. Yeah, I know.

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And it's been a rough year for illness.

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I wound up getting a bout of the norovirus, like literally right before,

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you know, the half day before Christmas break.

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And I felt bad texting my boss and I was like, look, this ain't happening today.

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There's no way I can physically drive myself to work or be in a classroom.

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So you're on your own, people.

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I have a friend who calls it the cha-chas and I just think that that's just

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the best thing to call I don't know if in my mind she made it up or it's a thing

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that her family says, have you heard that before?

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I have not You said yeah, I thought oh wow, is that a thing?

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No, I just thought that was a funny reference for it, absolutely Oh no,

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I have the cha-chas, I just think it's such a great and I hear cha-cha and I'm

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like cha-cha de Gregorio Do you know who she is? I do not.

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I don't know who Cha-Cha Di Gregorio is. Three, two. For real?

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No, I really don't. I don't. I don't know who Cha-Cha Di Gregorio is.

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I'm Cha-Cha Di Gregorio. I'm the best dancer at St.

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Bernadette's with the worst reputation.

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What is that from? Tell me you're a girl without telling. Yeah.

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What is that from? What is that from? I know what it's from. Come on. It's Grease.

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Oh, yeah. Grease. It just takes me. Look, it's been a while since I've watched

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some of those films. It's been a while. Yeah.

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I mean, she, you know, Cha-Cha Di Gregorio. Back in my day, they called them

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moving pictures back in my day.

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Yeah. So I thought maybe perhaps, and it will kind of go along with what we've

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already been talking about.

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Yes. That a really great, you know, especially this is your birthday month, right?

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Yes. So I thought we could do the episode that you've been waiting for.

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Okay. You know what it is. I think I do.

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So this is called the Vitaly Grump Fest 2025.

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No, it's not. This is, you know, it really grinds, you know, really grinds my gears.

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Or the hill I choose to die on. The hill I choose to die on.

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Yeah. Yeah. There's plenty of hills I choose to die on.

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I mean, so I thought we could go through some of our favorite gripes.

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Don't you dare make this. This is a birthday present for you.

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Don't you dare make this all about me.

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You got your gripes too there girl so i do

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i'm like i got me on my porch yeah with my cane and i'm i'm keeping your balls

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kids like oh it's like the snl the snl one she's like i keep this this is my

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this is my porch this is mine now i keep this i'm gonna tell your father um,

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yeah great stuff um if you're watching on

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the youtubes joe just gave us a little prop comedy so yeah

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a little prop comedy um of course but no

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it's definitely um look we all have a bunch of gripes um

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about like our profession about life um i

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i think uh i mean people in general like working yeah like everybody does um

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i think like i don't want to um i i'm kind of tired you don't really grinds

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my gears uh one of the first things yeah god i mean is it gonna be a list is it just I'm going to say,

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if you are listening to us as we appreciate all our listeners,

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and this is not the mood that you're in.

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We're going to highlight this episode as like a save it for when you're right.

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And your old man shakes fist at sky film at 11. Yes. I understand.

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I can really, really understand. Like if you're already like in a low place,

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like you need to be lifted up.

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But we just feel like we want to clear the air a little bit.

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Normally our vibe is like up and high and positive. But today in honor of Joe's 834th birthday.

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186.3 birthday um listen

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the first thing i i the first thing i want

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to bring up is that i am so tired of the

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phrase game changer can we stop saying that everything is a game changer this

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new skincare routine is a game changer this new way i organize my pantry is

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a game changer this thing for your classroom is going to be a game changer it's

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not a game changer if everything is a game changer, then nothing is a game changer. Okay.

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And most of the times, the things that are a game changer, especially in the

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classroom, wind up being a fad, right?

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We talked a long time ago about the game changing way that, you know,

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Apple devices were going to infiltrate the classroom, or the way we were going

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to go one-to-one with Chromebooks.

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And now how many times have we discussed how much we

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want and need to walk back the

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amount of technology that's used in our classroom so like

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i'm so like i i literally i'll be like you know doom scrolling through

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instagram and i'll see like i just blah blah blah this is

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a game check nope forget it i just like flip right through it

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hate it literally yeah i wouldn't say hate it it's

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just like oh enough with this already like stop saying game changer that's my

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yeah put it on the wall of death yeah right you ever see one of those like word

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graveyards that people have oh yeah like skibbity toilet and like you know we're

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like a lot like in language arts we would always have like word graveyards right so it's It's like,

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they just said the word good. Yeah.

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Fine. Yeah. You know, like there was just certain words over and over that you

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would just hang up on the word wall. And it was like that section of the word

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wall was the word graveyard.

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So you're going to add game changer. Game changer.

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So that's, that's my one. That's one thing that really grinds my gears.

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Number one. Yeah. Number one. All right. Well, I have one. Sure.

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Oh, you're just, you're. And I think this is internationally known on the microphone,

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but I have real issue. Okay.

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I have a real issue with people that you know, in life.

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Wherever you are and they act like they

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don't know who you are and they don't say hello

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oh this little portion this my grind

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gears gears grinding session has to

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do and will be dedicated to i'm sorry i'm being

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so serious right now you're just so effing animated which is that like you're

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getting your 11s on your ride oh my god and botox i'm getting bangs everyone

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goldie hawn bangs not botox no are you doing bangs i mean probably not but i've

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always said like once it gets too much i'm gonna have to goldie hawn myself

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but i do you ever see those ones you just clip in,

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my god i'm gonna buy you those i'm gonna buy you those just to try them you

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need to try to wear um yeah totally so what really i'm gonna dedicate this to

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doug anderson doug anderson was um got it He's retired, okay?

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But Doug Anderson, and he would 100% support me putting his name out into the universe about this.

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Because this was something that drove him crazy. It's really the antithesis of who he is as a person.

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And so when I started teaching, he was so old.

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He's not that old, right? But it's like, I'm 22, and he was like,

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I don't even know. He just seemed old to me.

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He had kids, and his kids were grown.

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You know, like all the things. He's married. He has this great wife. Love you, Ange.

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Shout out to Ange. Anyway, he was the kind of coworker that would come in in

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the morning, open everybody's doors, unlock all the doors, like get things for

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you, do whatever you needed, never said no.

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Like the first person to like clean your car off when it snowed.

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He would go outside and clean people's cars off when it snowed on an early dismissal day.

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Things like that. Just this great chivalrous. But also, in my mind,

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I was sort of marinated in that workspace.

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And shout out to Edwin. I don't know if he listens, but a former co-worker of

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mine who did that at another middle school that I used to work at.

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And they actually had taken a picture of him cleaning off other people's cars

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because he did it out of the kindness of his heart. And you're like, special thanks to Mr.

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Mr. N for going out of his way and cleaning off people's cars out of the goodness of it.

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It was just such a nice thing. I was like, dude, I was like,

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dude, you couldn't have driven to my school and clean up my car.

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Like, well, just like just the good guys, you know.

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So so anyway, so he had this, you know, he would. Good morning,

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Joe. Good morning, Jamie. Good morning, Matt. Good morning. Like whoever it was. Yes.

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And there's this subsection of people and it cannot just be in teaching.

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OK, so we're going to like you guys are going to have to tell us.

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Us for our non-teacher listeners, right, of how can you walk past someone that

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you work with and pretend like you don't see them?

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And you're the only two people in the hallway.

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The passing, like, ships in the night. So Doug had started this,

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like, whole list where it was, like, he was the hello police.

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And there was, you know, like, this really, like this movement of like,

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no, and I get it. Like if you're not, not everyone's friendly.

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Some people are shy. Some people have social anxiety, all the things, right?

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Which I do not expect you to know. You know, I try to, as a person,

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like if I, if I'm in a space with someone, I try to learn a little bit about

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them, like personal life, professional life, just sort of understand some people

00:16:43.124 --> 00:16:45.424
don't like you to know about their personal life.

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So I, you know, you keep a professional, but you sort of understand some of

00:16:48.304 --> 00:16:52.744
the things that they're passionate about in their career, but to just walk past

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someone and not even give like a,

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Now, what I just did was, for those of you that are listening,

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I did a closed mouth, up, smile, a little turned up, and a head nod. Yeah. Okay?

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I didn't speak. It was just like you kind of just acknowledge that the other

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and just move along, right?

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No? No, you're right. I mean, just because it grinds my gears doesn't mean it has to grind your gears.

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Yeah no there are times where i'm like rushing around and

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i get in my own little tunnel vision headspace i'm like

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oh i gotta run through the cop here no you don't no you don't i don't i do i

00:17:37.798 --> 00:17:47.238
do don't no okay no no you don't you don't you don't i enjoy you so much right

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now um there's you don't do it you're like,

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no no and i also location is

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like grand social state like you yeah because of where i am

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in the morning people like look in and it but no you you do not do that i also

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stand uh i i took it from you at the porch i stand on the porch uh outside my

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door um you know in between classes and i see kids like like you know i teach

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seventh grade so like eighth graders that are in the building like Like in the beginning of the year,

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they would like walk past my room and it's just like, look at me.

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And I'm like, and I was just, I don't say anything.

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I just stare back at them because they're staring at me and I'm staring at them. And I'm like.

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Hello like i'm like like you can

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use words like we spent the better part of 180 days together you know hours

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of time like it's okay i have one girl who i think doesn't say hi to me and

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she's very sweet girl and i think at this point she doesn't say hi to me because

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like it's a thing and she always was past it she always smiles and i'm like

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and i don't want to say her name like hi,

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i'm excluding kids from this category no yeah i get that because it's like you

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know you're the most awkward.

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You, there's a lot, you know, and I'm a grownup and you're a kid.

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I'm talking about peer to peer adult to adult.

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We work together and it's so strange.

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Here's a hill she's going to die on. That is absolutely. And no, I don't agree.

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I, I, I do agree with you that it's strange. I agree that it's strange.

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I can't do it. To other people, it might not be. Who?

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Why? I don't know. Maybe it's, maybe, listen. No. Game changer. Game changer.

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That behavior is a game changer. Yeah. Oh my God, I want to punch the screen.

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Did you ever see Jennifer Hudson's show? I don't know if she's going to make it.

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We were not home during the day, but sometimes I have seen it.

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Okay. So sometimes I haven't really, but I know you're, I know you're going

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to, I know you're going to mention sometimes what I, what comes up for me and I do really enjoy it.

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And I tend to watch them as like her staff, whoever's on the show,

00:20:01.021 --> 00:20:03.441
they like line the hallway. Yes.

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Now, obviously, most of these actors act like they're people who are like they're

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putting themselves out there.

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So, like, it's in their, you know, personality to, like, be able to strut down,

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like, you know, a row of people.

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But it's so fantastic. And it is not it's not what I'm saying.

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It's not like someone has to be like, oh, and Jamie's here. Hey,

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hey. Oh, Jamie. Yeah, Jamie.

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What? What? Because that's what they do on the Jennifer Act.

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They make a song that, you know, like it would be like V.

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I.T. But it would. But you would, but you would make a song. I would.

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So I want, I just want to be very clear in this porch session that I'm having

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right now. I want to be very clear, fist shaking.

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It is not something that I think needs to be like over exaggerated.

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I don't expect them to have a whole conversation with me or know my name.

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But I do think that like politeness in

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the world has come to a point where

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how can you work with someone hundreds of

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days a year and you don't even glance up

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and give like a hey hi not yeah i

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don't like it hello police yeah we're gonna

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get you a little badge that's right get me a badge you've been glad you have

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been cited by the hello police goodbye and okay

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sir i'm almost thinking like like for

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you like saying good morning to somebody is like the uh it's the scene And I

00:21:29.727 --> 00:21:34.727
think the movie is Spirited It's a holiday movie Which is on Apple TV Plus And

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it had Ryan Reynolds and Will Ferrell Which I think is an underrated It's a

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new telling of the Scrooge Christmas story You've never seen that?

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I didn't You've got to be kidding me You've seen like every Christmas movie.

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How did i miss it i don't know i have no idea it came out i actually think it

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is one of the it is probably in my top five of christmas movies at different

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i'm not i'm not kidding like it's literally that good i think the story is great

00:22:03.180 --> 00:22:04.920
i think it's incredibly entertaining,

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um i'm you know i i do like a musical not gonna lie uh and i think the songs

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in it are good but there's this one where they're saying like they go back in

00:22:13.960 --> 00:22:19.080
in time and they're like um they're like in the 1800s or whatever it was, 1700s.

00:22:19.120 --> 00:22:23.940
And he, one time the character goes, oh, good afternoon. But he doesn't know

00:22:23.940 --> 00:22:27.380
that like good afternoon in the 1800s is like a curse word. It's like saying,

00:22:27.480 --> 00:22:29.000
you know, giving somebody the middle finger.

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So he goes, oh, good afternoon. And the girl like slaps him upside the face.

00:22:32.540 --> 00:22:36.500
But there's a song in the movie. It's like, good afternoon, good afternoon.

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And I'm thinking that's you. Like now you're just going to say hello to people.

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And it's going to be like a big like.

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But I do. And also I do believe that there's, you know, there are people where

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like I'm too much. I get it.

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So like I do try to like I dial it down a little bit, especially in the a.m.

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Because like I'm a morning person and I understand being married to someone

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who is not, you know, that you like you have to really like temper that excitement

00:23:01.800 --> 00:23:03.800
that, you know, like the sun is shining.

00:23:04.120 --> 00:23:07.020
We're starting our day. And like some people just don't want to do that until

00:23:07.020 --> 00:23:13.200
like 10, 11 o'clock. but I still think I like, and I look and I smile and it's

00:23:13.200 --> 00:23:15.420
like, you just keep going.

00:23:15.700 --> 00:23:18.460
So I'm going to add, you know, so, so far, number one.

00:23:19.936 --> 00:23:26.976
Game changer. Number two. Yeah. And these are in no particular rank of anything

00:23:26.976 --> 00:23:29.196
in particular. So far, that's the list. Give me a number three.

00:23:30.316 --> 00:23:34.856
Let's see. I mean, are we talking work or are we talking- Everywhere.

00:23:35.236 --> 00:23:42.816
In general society. Everywhere. I often have, I have a little joke right now.

00:23:42.916 --> 00:23:45.756
Like one day, Jamie, I'm going to be, I'm going to have, like,

00:23:45.816 --> 00:23:48.536
you're going to be like, I haven't heard from Joe in like two weeks, which will be rare.

00:23:48.536 --> 00:23:51.296
And you're gonna be like where's joe and i'm gonna be in

00:23:51.296 --> 00:23:55.776
one of three places one i'm gonna be in florence italy because i've sold all

00:23:55.776 --> 00:24:01.636
my stuff and i'm gonna go live drinking espressos and eating cheese and raisin

00:24:01.636 --> 00:24:10.056
boats yeah um so or i'm gonna have sold all my stuff and i'm gonna move to oahu.

00:24:11.176 --> 00:24:14.136
And i'm gonna be an uber driver um or

00:24:14.136 --> 00:24:16.956
i'm going to have gotten arrested at a local

00:24:16.956 --> 00:24:25.936
costco because I've gotten into a fight with somebody because I do not understand

00:24:25.936 --> 00:24:31.496
the propensity of people to be completely clueless to those around them and

00:24:31.496 --> 00:24:36.836
be in an aisle full of people on their phone, on speakerphone,

00:24:37.016 --> 00:24:39.736
having a conversation while you are

00:24:39.736 --> 00:24:43.716
trying to get in and out of a Costco that is busier

00:24:43.716 --> 00:24:47.156
than busy okay so i

00:24:47.156 --> 00:24:50.256
it's gonna have like i'm i like i've i've literally been

00:24:50.256 --> 00:24:53.156
i'm like these i've literally been said out loud like gotten frustrated

00:24:53.156 --> 00:24:56.036
like man these people and the phones like you've got to be kidding me

00:24:56.036 --> 00:25:00.296
and i just don't like what are

00:25:00.296 --> 00:25:02.956
they what are they chatting about i don't know

00:25:02.956 --> 00:25:06.056
i i can't i can't it makes me it

00:25:06.056 --> 00:25:10.516
drives you crazy it grinds my gears um so

00:25:10.516 --> 00:25:13.516
like it to me it's like i just

00:25:13.516 --> 00:25:16.496
have such a i have

00:25:16.496 --> 00:25:22.956
i feel i have a good awareness of people when i am out and being considerate

00:25:22.956 --> 00:25:28.856
and kind of others i just think it's inconsiderate i don't know why um maybe

00:25:28.856 --> 00:25:32.396
other people don't feel that way those people could be having pressing important

00:25:32.396 --> 00:25:36.396
conversations about family matters or things that are going on but like.

00:25:37.476 --> 00:25:40.476
You're in a costco so could you not do that

00:25:40.476 --> 00:25:43.176
in a cost like go somewhere else go out to

00:25:43.176 --> 00:25:46.436
your car go take a little bit of a break go have your conversation

00:25:46.436 --> 00:25:49.396
at the mall or is it no it's it's

00:25:49.396 --> 00:25:54.276
it's anywhere it's it's really anywhere but it's more in costco because it's

00:25:54.276 --> 00:26:01.896
so god damn crowded it's packed and sometimes people are there with like their

00:26:01.896 --> 00:26:06.696
extended family and there's other people running around. Like, I'm just so like, not.

00:26:09.166 --> 00:26:12.266
I'm just aware of like other people. And I hate it.

00:26:12.486 --> 00:26:15.926
I do. I think it's it's inconsiderate. But you know what I do?

00:26:15.966 --> 00:26:18.086
I go up to them and I say, hello, good morning.

00:26:19.226 --> 00:26:23.586
So that's what I make sure that I do that. right away um right

00:26:23.586 --> 00:26:26.766
but even if you're in the store right now we're shop shop

00:26:26.766 --> 00:26:30.906
shopping with our shopping part you look at people like right

00:26:30.906 --> 00:26:35.646
i i had an eye and smile you don't have to meet like full eye contact with everyone

00:26:35.646 --> 00:26:43.426
however when you're out in the world like there are i i call it wawa culture

00:26:43.426 --> 00:26:50.726
yeah all right you go to wawa and everybody holds the door yes.

00:26:51.986 --> 00:26:56.106
You would never let the door close on someone. No.

00:26:56.746 --> 00:27:01.906
Going into Walla. No. Right? How did that start? I don't know.

00:27:02.766 --> 00:27:07.146
How can we apply that everywhere? Well, the other thing is we've had,

00:27:07.146 --> 00:27:09.686
we've had trainings in the past where we've said like, well,

00:27:09.766 --> 00:27:13.326
when you're holding the door for an elderly person, it's like you're saying

00:27:13.326 --> 00:27:16.206
to them that they don't have the strength to hold the door.

00:27:16.266 --> 00:27:19.826
So like you're stealing their worth and their value. And I'm like.

00:27:20.926 --> 00:27:26.926
That that's, I know, like I was brought up that way. I tell my son, hold the door.

00:27:27.715 --> 00:27:31.295
Like I, I tell him, yeah, I tell my son, hold the door. I once,

00:27:31.455 --> 00:27:34.935
uh, I once said that I was talking about it with my dad who was,

00:27:35.055 --> 00:27:36.935
you know, in his eighties and old school.

00:27:38.035 --> 00:27:42.315
And he was, uh, we were getting out of the car. We were heading over to the, to a baseball game.

00:27:42.815 --> 00:27:47.255
Um, and I think by, you know, my dad is a cancer patient getting treatment and

00:27:47.255 --> 00:27:48.935
he just, you know, it was kind of like labored.

00:27:48.935 --> 00:27:52.355
And like, I was like, I was like, um, I just want to ask you,

00:27:52.475 --> 00:27:55.915
is it okay if I carry your chair, because if I don't ask permission,

00:27:55.915 --> 00:27:58.915
it's like that I'm stealing your ability to carry this.

00:27:59.055 --> 00:28:01.675
And he just says, like, get the F out of here. Right. And you're like, right.

00:28:02.115 --> 00:28:05.395
It's like and but I carried the chair anyway. But like, it's just the whole

00:28:05.395 --> 00:28:08.475
point of like, to me, that sounds ridiculous.

00:28:08.855 --> 00:28:12.555
To me, the courteous thing to do to somebody is you hold the door and then the

00:28:12.555 --> 00:28:13.415
door for the next person.

00:28:13.575 --> 00:28:16.355
And you look behind you when you're leaving and you make sure it doesn't slam

00:28:16.355 --> 00:28:18.635
in their face. Like you just do that. That's right.

00:28:18.895 --> 00:28:21.555
And you say thank you. And it's just courteous.

00:28:22.755 --> 00:28:29.595
Courtesy So to me When I see it as they are being Discourteous When people are

00:28:29.595 --> 00:28:33.655
on the phone Blocking the aisle Having a conversation with their boyfriend,

00:28:33.775 --> 00:28:35.955
girlfriend And it doesn't matter the ethnicity.

00:28:37.155 --> 00:28:42.595
It's everybody It's black, white Many people that do it It's not specific to

00:28:42.595 --> 00:28:48.295
any specific gender I just don't understand where it comes from How is that

00:28:48.295 --> 00:28:52.415
socially acceptable To be walking around having a very loud conversation,

00:28:53.275 --> 00:28:56.275
not paying attention to the other people that are trying to get by,

00:28:56.435 --> 00:28:57.395
trying to move through the aisle.

00:28:57.555 --> 00:29:02.115
I want to get my, you know, my milk out of the thing or I want to get the,

00:29:02.315 --> 00:29:04.795
you know, I want to get my, what do we need to get a chicken real quick?

00:29:04.875 --> 00:29:06.255
I want to get my rotisserie chicken.

00:29:06.555 --> 00:29:11.055
I want to, you know, I want to get my Kirkland sweatshirt and get my drip, get my drip on.

00:29:12.215 --> 00:29:17.075
Recently, I did like an online order because I just thought I don't have it in me to go there.

00:29:17.395 --> 00:29:20.695
Yeah. But I did have it all delivered to my porch and it was pretty great.

00:29:21.015 --> 00:29:26.635
You know, a few years ago, so Drew has been very dedicated to his hairdresser,

00:29:27.400 --> 00:29:30.520
Yes. Since he's about four years old, right?

00:29:30.740 --> 00:29:35.180
So long, long, long standing relationship with her, Melinda.

00:29:35.360 --> 00:29:37.660
And she works at, she's worked at different places.

00:29:37.860 --> 00:29:40.540
And he has followed her from place to place.

00:29:40.800 --> 00:29:45.140
Yeah. And so now she is at a full-on lady salon. Oh.

00:29:45.580 --> 00:29:48.540
Okay. Like the ladiest, fanciest lady salon you could imagine.

00:29:49.400 --> 00:29:57.720
And a couple of years ago, someone posted in like our community page online.

00:29:59.160 --> 00:30:07.640
I was recently at, you know, such and such salon and a teenage boy ran to hold the door for me.

00:30:09.100 --> 00:30:14.740
And I want to say thank you to his parents. You know, this really lovely like whole post.

00:30:15.360 --> 00:30:19.560
And I saw it and I was like, oh, that was us. Like that was like two hours ago.

00:30:20.100 --> 00:30:23.440
I, I wait in the car for him. Like he goes and does that himself,

00:30:23.680 --> 00:30:25.920
you know, the whole thing. And it was like, I know that that was him.

00:30:26.420 --> 00:30:31.180
And, um, and so I said, oh, you know, thank you so much. When I tell you that

00:30:31.180 --> 00:30:37.760
the trolls were trolling and instead of just letting someone like say,

00:30:39.360 --> 00:30:44.220
how thankful she was that she had this act of a common courtesy, right?

00:30:44.220 --> 00:30:47.320
Cause it's not like, you know, he didn't, he, it's not, I, he didn't build a

00:30:47.320 --> 00:30:49.820
pyramid. Like it was an act of common courtesy. Right.

00:30:51.480 --> 00:30:54.720
And people had to come and say like, Oh, why do you have to say,

00:30:55.060 --> 00:30:57.760
why do you care? Why does he thank you? Everyone should be doing that.

00:30:58.000 --> 00:31:01.680
They had to turn it into this super negative.

00:31:02.500 --> 00:31:06.260
And it was, Oh, you know what? The interesting part about that whole thing is,

00:31:06.320 --> 00:31:09.700
is that I know in the salon that he was in, he was underneath like one of those

00:31:09.700 --> 00:31:11.680
big hair dryers that left those over his head.

00:31:11.880 --> 00:31:16.120
So he jumped up and ran over the door. uh no and it

00:31:16.120 --> 00:31:18.720
is it's like one of those things like you said it's like yeah we but we

00:31:18.720 --> 00:31:21.520
have boys i just i just picture him legs crossed reading

00:31:21.520 --> 00:31:27.220
cosmopolitan just like just like under the dryer foils in his hair exactly yeah

00:31:27.220 --> 00:31:31.780
i'm sure yeah it's crazy i i hope he listens to that and appreciates the joke

00:31:31.780 --> 00:31:35.260
because oh my goodness i'm sure but yeah and it's and and he it's somewhere

00:31:35.260 --> 00:31:40.720
he's been going so it's not like um but it is like more there are more women but at the same time.

00:31:40.900 --> 00:31:45.360
Like it's not anything that I wouldn't expect my daughters to do. Yeah.

00:31:45.880 --> 00:31:49.020
Because it's like it's a common. Exactly. It's a common courtesy thing.

00:31:49.140 --> 00:31:55.180
So how do some places like a Wawa create that culture of this is what you do

00:31:55.180 --> 00:31:58.000
here as opposed to like loud talking?

00:31:58.854 --> 00:32:02.634
Yeah, I don't know. Yeah. And apparently it's not just a Costco-specific thing.

00:32:02.754 --> 00:32:07.754
And by the way, I have been to multiple Costco's, and it happens in whatever

00:32:07.754 --> 00:32:09.854
Costco I happen to go to. Yeah, that's true.

00:32:10.054 --> 00:32:13.554
You can get yourself a chicken bake and, you know, float your worries away.

00:32:13.594 --> 00:32:16.694
I mean, yeah, absolutely.

00:32:16.774 --> 00:32:20.134
I'd also like to say that their double choc-a-choc cookie, eh.

00:32:21.594 --> 00:32:25.354
Eh, eh, eh, I mean, talk about roving reporter.

00:32:25.354 --> 00:32:32.314
I mean, I genuinely look forward to like balancing ourselves on the next food tour.

00:32:33.014 --> 00:32:36.614
Yeah, we do have to do that. I saw another group of people that went on a little

00:32:36.614 --> 00:32:38.894
food tour, a little chocolate chip cookie thing.

00:32:39.354 --> 00:32:42.814
Jamie and I and my daughter went on a little chocolate chip cookie tour in the summertime.

00:32:44.294 --> 00:32:46.594
And I hope that we can do something like that again. But they actually went

00:32:46.594 --> 00:32:49.814
to a bunch of different places that I was like, oh, I didn't know this place even existed.

00:32:50.134 --> 00:32:52.554
Was it cookies? Yeah. Oh, yeah. They did chocolate chip cookies.

00:32:53.994 --> 00:32:59.074
Yeah. So anyway, I guess it's your turn again. What else is grinding your gears?

00:33:01.334 --> 00:33:03.754
I mean, we're going to have to do another episode of this. I mean,

00:33:03.814 --> 00:33:06.754
this is just like, there's so many things. Happy birthday, Joe.

00:33:09.654 --> 00:33:13.554
I will go upstairs and have another piece of my, I'm basically playing a fun

00:33:13.554 --> 00:33:18.034
game with myself, which is how much of my Fudgy the Whale ice cream cake from

00:33:18.034 --> 00:33:21.754
Carvel can I eat by myself? That's pretty much where I'm at right now.

00:33:21.774 --> 00:33:25.174
Is it a cake just for you? No, I mean, I got it for everyone.

00:33:25.434 --> 00:33:28.654
And then my wife last night was like, oh, I want the piece of the cake,

00:33:28.774 --> 00:33:31.434
but I don't want it with the fudge on it. I was like, so you just want whale?

00:33:31.614 --> 00:33:32.734
You don't want the fudgy part?

00:33:34.634 --> 00:33:36.274
I thought that was hysterical.

00:33:38.994 --> 00:33:41.474
So, no, we've all been, like, munching on it. But, like, yeah,

00:33:41.594 --> 00:33:44.574
I mean, you know, fudgy the whale, underrated as an ice cream cake.

00:33:45.694 --> 00:33:47.694
It's good stuff. Okay, all right. All right, ready? You're up.

00:33:47.914 --> 00:33:50.714
Yes. Okay. I don't care for...

00:33:51.922 --> 00:33:56.642
You have a, you have a list. You're so prepared. No, I, I, no. What don't you care for?

00:33:57.282 --> 00:34:00.442
I don't like when people have like catchphrases.

00:34:02.642 --> 00:34:08.282
Like, are we having fun yet? Gotcha. Living the dream. Okay. Um.

00:34:11.582 --> 00:34:15.062
I know that that is like a socially relatable thing.

00:34:15.622 --> 00:34:21.182
Yes. But I, I, I don't hate, I don't hate my job.

00:34:22.542 --> 00:34:25.562
So it is my dream like this

00:34:25.562 --> 00:34:28.922
is the only thing i ever wanted to do yeah so

00:34:28.922 --> 00:34:34.062
when someone says like live in the dream i kind of want to say like yes it's

00:34:34.062 --> 00:34:39.182
kind of my stock answer sometime right do you say yes yeah i do i do say live

00:34:39.182 --> 00:34:42.982
in the dream that's part of my uh you say live in the dream sometimes when i'm

00:34:42.982 --> 00:34:47.202
in passing and i'm moving along what else do you say um,

00:34:48.462 --> 00:34:50.302
Um, other words that are on the word wall.

00:34:50.522 --> 00:34:53.002
Fine. Good. Good. Hanging in there.

00:34:53.462 --> 00:34:56.322
But that's not a catchphrase. Or like people be like, what'd you do this week?

00:34:56.442 --> 00:34:59.122
Nothing. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. No, that's not a catchphrase.

00:34:59.642 --> 00:35:03.242
Okay. These are things that people just say sort of in passing.

00:35:04.562 --> 00:35:07.722
Having fun yet? You should have like a, you should, you know what you should do?

00:35:07.822 --> 00:35:11.882
You should go completely opposite direction and go like completely weird on them and be like,

00:35:12.102 --> 00:35:15.522
like when you leave a room, you know, like when like Bob Barker used to like

00:35:15.522 --> 00:35:18.082
stop but the price is right and he'd be done he'd be like hey and have your

00:35:18.082 --> 00:35:20.902
pet spayed or neutered like that's that should be you like when you leave the

00:35:20.902 --> 00:35:23.542
room like all right everybody have a good day make sure you get your pet spayed

00:35:23.542 --> 00:35:27.482
spayed and neutered and just walk right just something just walk out of the

00:35:27.482 --> 00:35:31.202
room can you think of anything that people love to say um,

00:35:32.462 --> 00:35:47.142
i think they're for like all work related yeah no i really can't um is it friday yet I don't know why.

00:35:50.734 --> 00:35:54.274
It just makes me crazy. Yeah, you're just there.

00:35:54.614 --> 00:35:56.874
I'm going to say them now. I'm going to say them from now on.

00:35:56.994 --> 00:35:59.734
No, you need to go as far as as far as in the opposite.

00:36:01.154 --> 00:36:06.194
Oh, there's there's there's some that you could say that I won't say on this

00:36:06.194 --> 00:36:07.974
podcast because it would get us a different rating.

00:36:08.694 --> 00:36:11.614
But I'll say those when we're when we're done because you'll laugh at them because

00:36:11.614 --> 00:36:14.074
you're a dirty bird. Yeah.

00:36:15.454 --> 00:36:18.634
Catchphrases. OK. Yeah. All right. So I got it.

00:36:19.994 --> 00:36:26.634
Yeah. Um, so how about like, it is what it is. It is what it is. Yeah. I hear that a lot.

00:36:28.274 --> 00:36:31.814
I'm like, is it what it is? No. A lot of that is like, well,

00:36:31.974 --> 00:36:33.674
you know, can't change it. It is what it is.

00:36:33.794 --> 00:36:38.654
And that to me is like, like, um, I always, I don't really watch Dr.

00:36:38.774 --> 00:36:41.714
Phil and not that I'm not a fan, but like, I always remember a line that he

00:36:41.714 --> 00:36:44.074
said, like, would you rather do what's right or do what's convenient?

00:36:44.974 --> 00:36:48.334
Cause doing what's convenient is always the path of least resistance.

00:36:48.334 --> 00:36:52.594
It's always the easiest thing to do. sometimes when we do what's right when

00:36:52.594 --> 00:36:55.934
we talk about it is what it is but like are is it really like can we have that

00:36:55.934 --> 00:36:59.914
conversation like I know I said conversation again take a drink everyone.

00:37:02.954 --> 00:37:09.474
But there I mean I when I tell you yesterday we had you know we've had and I

00:37:09.474 --> 00:37:11.034
have to say I thought we we had to,

00:37:13.195 --> 00:37:16.455
some professional development. I had one of the best professional development

00:37:16.455 --> 00:37:19.335
days that I have had in years and years. That is great.

00:37:19.575 --> 00:37:22.775
That word, like it really is like, it is great.

00:37:22.935 --> 00:37:26.775
But there were, I had heard like, and I know that there are phrases and words

00:37:26.775 --> 00:37:29.315
that I say or repeat or the ums or anything like that.

00:37:29.415 --> 00:37:31.835
And we all have like our go-to vocabulary.

00:37:32.755 --> 00:37:35.835
But there were so many times of the day that, and it is true.

00:37:35.975 --> 00:37:39.695
It's like, yes, because what we're encouraging by saying the conversation is

00:37:39.695 --> 00:37:45.955
there's a really great desire to have open lines of communication between parents,

00:37:46.215 --> 00:37:48.235
students, teachers, administrators,

00:37:48.995 --> 00:37:53.355
really trying to, you know, get to, and it just gets to the bottom,

00:37:53.495 --> 00:37:56.175
get to the root, get to the heart. And it is so true of what we do.

00:37:56.675 --> 00:38:02.155
It is based in, you know, peopling. That's what we do, you know? Yeah.

00:38:02.495 --> 00:38:05.335
So it was, I know I joke with you about that word, but it is,

00:38:05.415 --> 00:38:08.495
it is. So it's relevant. It's more than relevant. Yeah.

00:38:09.435 --> 00:38:15.375
Um, I think one of the, one of the other things, um, that grinds my gears and

00:38:15.375 --> 00:38:17.735
this will be a small one. I'm going to make, I'm going to make a student comment.

00:38:17.935 --> 00:38:21.475
It's a mini one. It's a mini one. And so not, not calling out students,

00:38:21.595 --> 00:38:26.475
but there are times when, when I will be asked the same question,

00:38:26.795 --> 00:38:30.535
three different ways by a student and it drives me absolutely.

00:38:30.775 --> 00:38:34.755
So, um, do we put our name on this paper yeah you put your name on that paper

00:38:34.755 --> 00:38:42.375
in this one yes the one you just gave to us like and i'm i literally i'll go

00:38:42.375 --> 00:38:45.815
like are you are you is there and i'll go i i look around and i'm like,

00:38:46.295 --> 00:38:50.835
is there is there a camera am i gonna be and i say the reference of is aston

00:38:50.835 --> 00:38:54.855
kutcher gonna jump out and say i got punked like what is that's another reference

00:38:54.855 --> 00:39:01.175
for everyone um like sometimes it's like what i i just and uh.

00:39:02.267 --> 00:39:04.567
You know, today I also went through a period. I was like, okay,

00:39:04.647 --> 00:39:07.787
so what we're going to do is we're going to, we're going to read pages 221 and 222.

00:39:07.807 --> 00:39:11.667
And I said, the students that are confused by this are the ones that are not

00:39:11.667 --> 00:39:14.847
reading, right? You guys actually have to sit and read.

00:39:15.447 --> 00:39:18.967
And then there's a little graphic organizer I want you to fill out based on that reading.

00:39:19.127 --> 00:39:21.167
And the answers aren't going to jump off the page, but like,

00:39:21.287 --> 00:39:23.507
you'll find it once you read it.

00:39:23.607 --> 00:39:26.467
And of course they want to skim, they want to look at the bolded headings.

00:39:26.567 --> 00:39:27.967
They want to, I'm like, no, no, yeah.

00:39:28.167 --> 00:39:31.107
Yeah. It says it like federal cases are going

00:39:31.107 --> 00:39:33.887
to start with the constitute like it literally says what they

00:39:33.887 --> 00:39:36.807
do like and they weren't doing it and i must have

00:39:36.807 --> 00:39:43.507
repeated myself on what to do like at least 13 times i was on the board and

00:39:43.507 --> 00:39:46.627
it was like it was all over the place and i was like what like no you got to

00:39:46.627 --> 00:39:51.367
read it first like i'm telling you like it's there but you have to actually

00:39:51.367 --> 00:39:55.207
read it so and then one of the kids was like are we having fun yet? Yeah.

00:39:56.227 --> 00:40:02.107
Um, I want to, yeah, exactly. I, I understand because there are times when you're

00:40:02.107 --> 00:40:07.867
like, did I, I, and especially I think too, like, cause, because we teach the

00:40:07.867 --> 00:40:10.427
same, you know, subject multiple times.

00:40:10.767 --> 00:40:14.887
So there, there are instances where I'll like do exactly what you said and then

00:40:14.887 --> 00:40:18.967
think like, did I not, did I think I said that to them?

00:40:19.087 --> 00:40:23.347
I said it in the class before And then you know what I mean? But, but no.

00:40:23.547 --> 00:40:27.247
And there are also points in time where I have said, um, you know,

00:40:27.387 --> 00:40:31.487
after like the same thing, like five times, like, okay.

00:40:32.007 --> 00:40:37.147
Um, can, can someone explain what I just said? Yeah. No, literally I I've done

00:40:37.147 --> 00:40:38.667
the exact, I've done the exact same thing.

00:40:39.047 --> 00:40:44.267
I have nothing left to give. Yeah. Yeah. And again, like it's,

00:40:44.407 --> 00:40:47.967
it's one of the frustrating things that really grinds my gears is when I have

00:40:47.967 --> 00:40:51.247
to repeat myself and I'm always like, okay, let's be, uh,

00:40:51.487 --> 00:40:53.127
focused, intentional and purposeful

00:40:53.127 --> 00:40:55.927
on getting our day started and making sure that we're listening.

00:40:56.387 --> 00:40:59.227
And here's our, you know, morning meeting, which I do in every class.

00:40:59.227 --> 00:41:03.527
So even in the afternoon, it's a morning meeting, like we're like setting up

00:41:03.527 --> 00:41:05.627
what we're going to do for the day.

00:41:05.747 --> 00:41:08.847
So then everybody knows like, okay, there's your tasks. Let's get started so

00:41:08.847 --> 00:41:10.827
we can finish this and move on to the next thing.

00:41:11.307 --> 00:41:14.307
Um, cause you know, we don't want anyone to be bored. So we got to make sure

00:41:14.307 --> 00:41:19.327
that we switch activities as much as we can, um, to keep, uh, use, use things.

00:41:19.967 --> 00:41:22.927
You know the other I guess one of the other things that

00:41:22.927 --> 00:41:28.027
you could tack on to that is like you know be engaging like not

00:41:28.027 --> 00:41:35.567
everything is is engaging like if you're gonna have students write a story they

00:41:35.567 --> 00:41:40.447
need to know what the essential elements of a story are so they might need to

00:41:40.447 --> 00:41:46.707
take some notes on that or have that in a notebook or identify some and read them like.

00:41:47.847 --> 00:41:49.707
Pedagogy, rigor.

00:41:50.247 --> 00:41:54.067
Yeah, and sometimes those things aren't fun. So like...

00:41:54.705 --> 00:41:57.905
You know, it's not, everything's not a dog and pony show. So.

00:41:58.245 --> 00:42:02.325
Which is fine. Yeah. Which is fine. And neither is in life, you know?

00:42:02.565 --> 00:42:05.525
I mean, because when I'm sitting there doing a professional development on cybersecurity

00:42:05.525 --> 00:42:10.505
training, I'm like, yay, can't wait to learn if my password is strong.

00:42:10.805 --> 00:42:14.365
I don't like, seriously, like I have so many other things that I could be doing

00:42:14.365 --> 00:42:17.265
with my time. I mean, I'm fine as long as you say hello.

00:42:18.305 --> 00:42:20.505
You're good. I mean, the rest of your day could be like, good,

00:42:20.645 --> 00:42:22.525
good afternoon. Good afternoon.

00:42:23.505 --> 00:42:26.465
Stop. Stop. Yeah. Even stop. Oh, yeah. Stop.

00:42:27.385 --> 00:42:31.905
What's cracking, lagging? But no, I think as we are winding down this episode,

00:42:32.205 --> 00:42:36.785
I mean, I think this is going to have to be a recurring segment every once in

00:42:36.785 --> 00:42:39.945
a while where we're just going to have to be like. It feels so good. Yeah.

00:42:40.145 --> 00:42:44.605
You know, and that's part of the balance because we sometimes,

00:42:44.665 --> 00:42:47.685
you know, we're humans. We have things that tick us off.

00:42:47.805 --> 00:42:50.905
We have things that are angry. We have things that make us angry or upset us.

00:42:50.905 --> 00:42:53.985
Um, you know, we could talk about things in the workplace, not calling people

00:42:53.985 --> 00:42:58.605
out, but like, you know, there have been times where, um, there's that kind

00:42:58.605 --> 00:42:59.985
of stuff that grinds your gears as well.

00:43:00.065 --> 00:43:06.825
I mean, we've both been working for, you know, 24, 25, 26, you're 37 years now.

00:43:07.105 --> 00:43:09.325
Yeah. Something like that. I mean, you know, but I mean, if you're,

00:43:09.325 --> 00:43:11.805
you're working somewhere, you're working in an, in an environment,

00:43:11.805 --> 00:43:15.765
it doesn't matter if you're in corporate America, you're a teacher,

00:43:16.085 --> 00:43:20.405
you're a nurse, wherever you are, and you're doing something for 25 years,

00:43:20.745 --> 00:43:27.725
these stories are not things that have happened in the last two months, right?

00:43:27.885 --> 00:43:36.225
These are themes over long periods of time that, for me, have occurred my entire career.

00:43:37.079 --> 00:43:40.359
So I don't, I really don't think that they're changing, but they still grind

00:43:40.359 --> 00:43:42.279
me. I just have one important question for you.

00:43:42.919 --> 00:43:50.439
Okay. If I do happen to get arrested at a Costco, would you pay bail for me? Would you get me out?

00:43:50.879 --> 00:43:53.599
Or would you make me? I'm just going to pay like two weeks. I mean,

00:43:53.679 --> 00:43:56.019
don't wait two weeks. I mean, I don't know.

00:43:56.179 --> 00:43:59.839
I mean, I wouldn't, but no, if it ever happened, like those would be one of

00:43:59.839 --> 00:44:02.159
those. This is how this would go down in your house.

00:44:02.939 --> 00:44:05.299
But I joke calling from ding, ding, ding.

00:44:06.139 --> 00:44:09.019
Yeah hey dad yeah oh oh oh

00:44:09.019 --> 00:44:13.739
no mom dad's in jail yeah okay

00:44:13.739 --> 00:44:22.719
yeah uh no sorry um she'll see you soon she loves me but that's probably what'll

00:44:22.719 --> 00:44:27.739
happen i mean you know it's just for a few hours anyway like joe i told you

00:44:27.739 --> 00:44:32.059
yeah gotta calm down when you go to the costco you know the other thing is is like,

00:44:32.179 --> 00:44:36.419
I don't want to go back to the whole Costco discussion, but like, honestly,

00:44:36.699 --> 00:44:39.459
like, but I knew you mentioned like, oh, I got a delivery and it was fine.

00:44:39.539 --> 00:44:43.759
But like Costco is one of those places that like, I don't mind going like,

00:44:43.939 --> 00:44:48.139
you know, walking up and down the aisles to be more, I want my experience to

00:44:48.139 --> 00:44:50.799
be a better experience. I want to look at, I want to, you know,

00:44:50.879 --> 00:44:53.639
I want to walk around. I want to check out what the sampling samples are.

00:44:53.759 --> 00:44:56.779
I want to see what they're, you know, I want to see what's new in the bakery.

00:44:56.859 --> 00:44:58.359
I want to, you know, I go with my daughter.

00:44:58.519 --> 00:45:01.499
She tries to sneak an apple pie in the cart. We wind up getting an apple pie.

00:45:01.879 --> 00:45:05.019
Maybe you should wear your earplugs when you go there. Yeah,

00:45:05.119 --> 00:45:06.159
but isn't that insensitive?

00:45:07.259 --> 00:45:10.819
Like you're walking around with earbuds in, like not listening to people.

00:45:11.139 --> 00:45:14.419
Like, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

00:45:14.479 --> 00:45:18.379
But I want it to be a better journey for you. But this will be, I appreciate that.

00:45:18.579 --> 00:45:23.259
But, you know, I've also never been in a fight before. So this will be fun.

00:45:23.299 --> 00:45:25.739
I'm just going to get in a fight with somebody at Costco. Be like, let's do this.

00:45:26.099 --> 00:45:30.139
Have you really never were in a physical fight? No, I think I should throw eggs

00:45:30.139 --> 00:45:33.119
at people. but they're really, yeah, they're too expensive right now.

00:45:33.739 --> 00:45:38.759
Um, yeah, good stuff. Well, as, as always, my friend, uh, this segment's coming back.

00:45:38.879 --> 00:45:42.579
We're doing this before the season ends up. Uh, I appreciate you, my friend.

00:45:42.939 --> 00:45:47.619
I appreciate you too. And I hope you do not get arrested, but if you did, I will bail you out.

00:45:47.799 --> 00:45:50.699
I appreciate you. Thank you very much. And we'll see everybody next time on

00:45:50.699 --> 00:45:52.619
the Balancing Act podcast. Bye.

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